I hate when people do this. No really. I hate it. Don't do this to people.
In all seriousness, people are constantly touching my hair, and I'm not a fan of it. It happens on a daily basis. I have HORROR stories about my locs.
The whole story behind that video reenactment is as follows:
Some time over the summer, when I still had VERY young locs, me and a group of people I use to work with went out to a restaurant for dinner. It was a reunion of sorts. You know how those things go. I'm having a great time chatting with friends, enjoying my food. It was chill.
THEN...
I go up to the register with a friend of mine to make change so we could pay our bills. I'm in the MIDDLE of a conversation with her when all of a sudden I feel someones hand in my hair. Mind you my back was to whoever had their hand all up in my space. I felt his hand, and heard him saying, AND I QUOTE, "Whoa, this is cool. I didn't think it would feel like this at all." (Yes sir, I remember EXACTLY what you said). He didn't say a word to me. Didn't ask me about my hair. He DEFINITELY didn't ask if he could touch it. This actually happened. To make matters worse, this person (who I'm not friends with mind you) goes on to say, "hey, come here you gotta feel this." That's right, he invited his friend to put her hands in my head. HE invited HIS FRIEND, to put HER HANDS in MY head, AND SHE DID IT. Now I'm standing there with two sets of hands, neither of which belong to me nor my friend, in my hair WITH NOBODY SAYING A WORD TO ME!! My friend is just standing there, half shocked, and half amused, while I'm stuck feeling like the newest attraction in a played out petting zoo.
After the two loc offenders were done abusing me they just looked at me with smiles and walked away. As if they didn't see anything wrong with what they'd just done.
I'm just really lucky that I hadn't gotten my hair freshly twisted or anything. Like I said before, my locs were still in a very young stage, and thus were still very sensitive. This was back when I was still paying someone obnoxious amounts of cash to re-twist my locs. You KNOW I was mad. Like I was trying to explain in the video before I was so RUDELY interrupted, even when I still had an afro, people would constantly want to touch my hair. That was the absolute worst. People couldn't lightly fluff the top of the afro, no no, they had to press down on it as hard as they could so they could leave a hand print in my hair. You could almost see their finger prints. Okay maybe not that bad, but you get the point. My hair is not clay people. I try to take good care of my locs. I like to keep them clean, moisturized, oiled, etc. If I don't know where your hands have been, please do not put them in my hair.
In conclusion, to all those people that are curious as to what my hair, your friends hair, your friend's sister's boyfriend's hair, WHOEVER'S HAIR feels like, ask them. Wait until they give you the go ahead to put your hand in their hair. Don't just run up and touch things that don't belong to you with your grabby no-no hands.
In all seriousness, people are constantly touching my hair, and I'm not a fan of it. It happens on a daily basis. I have HORROR stories about my locs.
The whole story behind that video reenactment is as follows:
Some time over the summer, when I still had VERY young locs, me and a group of people I use to work with went out to a restaurant for dinner. It was a reunion of sorts. You know how those things go. I'm having a great time chatting with friends, enjoying my food. It was chill.
THEN...
I go up to the register with a friend of mine to make change so we could pay our bills. I'm in the MIDDLE of a conversation with her when all of a sudden I feel someones hand in my hair. Mind you my back was to whoever had their hand all up in my space. I felt his hand, and heard him saying, AND I QUOTE, "Whoa, this is cool. I didn't think it would feel like this at all." (Yes sir, I remember EXACTLY what you said). He didn't say a word to me. Didn't ask me about my hair. He DEFINITELY didn't ask if he could touch it. This actually happened. To make matters worse, this person (who I'm not friends with mind you) goes on to say, "hey, come here you gotta feel this." That's right, he invited his friend to put her hands in my head. HE invited HIS FRIEND, to put HER HANDS in MY head, AND SHE DID IT. Now I'm standing there with two sets of hands, neither of which belong to me nor my friend, in my hair WITH NOBODY SAYING A WORD TO ME!! My friend is just standing there, half shocked, and half amused, while I'm stuck feeling like the newest attraction in a played out petting zoo.
After the two loc offenders were done abusing me they just looked at me with smiles and walked away. As if they didn't see anything wrong with what they'd just done.
I'm just really lucky that I hadn't gotten my hair freshly twisted or anything. Like I said before, my locs were still in a very young stage, and thus were still very sensitive. This was back when I was still paying someone obnoxious amounts of cash to re-twist my locs. You KNOW I was mad. Like I was trying to explain in the video before I was so RUDELY interrupted, even when I still had an afro, people would constantly want to touch my hair. That was the absolute worst. People couldn't lightly fluff the top of the afro, no no, they had to press down on it as hard as they could so they could leave a hand print in my hair. You could almost see their finger prints. Okay maybe not that bad, but you get the point. My hair is not clay people. I try to take good care of my locs. I like to keep them clean, moisturized, oiled, etc. If I don't know where your hands have been, please do not put them in my hair.
In conclusion, to all those people that are curious as to what my hair, your friends hair, your friend's sister's boyfriend's hair, WHOEVER'S HAIR feels like, ask them. Wait until they give you the go ahead to put your hand in their hair. Don't just run up and touch things that don't belong to you with your grabby no-no hands.
Hilarious video! I really wish people would understand that touching a stranger's hair is so inappropriate. I am constantly dodging hands that are reaching for my head.
ReplyDeleteHey L, thanks for checking it out! Honestly, it scares me how often this happens. HOW WERE THESE PEOPLE RAISED?! I'm sure I'm going to have a ton of friends that read this and decide to touch my head just because I loathe it so much, haha.
ReplyDeleteI just got to the point of not wanting people to touch my hair...I thought I was the only one that cringed when people touched my locks...oof! For the second their hands are dragging down my hair, I can only think of what they just touched and are now putting in my very-hard-worked-for locks. I want to scream just thinking about it. Thanks for the post!
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